I’ve been considering if I wanted to do a review on this book for a week, since it is such a delicate topic for so many readers. But decided to go ahead on it because it is my personal opinion and I have the right to express it as I choose.
So, as many of you probably already know, Fifty Shades Of Grey is part of a trilogy of books by author E.L. James and the content of the story is very much sexually driven as to explain the connection between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey.
The main story behind it is that a young girl, in her final year of university and is majoring in English, Anastasia Steele unwillingly falls into doing an interview for her university’s student newspaper on the new up and coming and successful business man by the name is Christian Grey. This interview was to be conducted by her friend, Katherine Kavanaugh, but when she found herself sick with the flu, she convinced Anastasia to go in her place because the opportunity to profile the CEO for Grey Enterprises was too good to pass up for a journalist.
And this is how their story unfolds in front of the readers’ eyes.
- I have mixed feelings and opinions regarding this book, without a doubt. And with this in mind, I will start with what I don’t enjoy about it:Anastasia is constantly showcasing her immense low self esteem about her physical appearance and, for the most part of the book, is “in awe” of how a man of “such beauty” can possibly feel any sexual attraction to her what so ever.
This profoundly irritates me. Maybe, it’s because I enjoy a strong and empowered female character, but for the majority of the book Anastasia is found struggling with her own personal demons and bouts of self doubt that she imposes on their “relationship”. I understand that she over thinks situations a lot, I can relate to that, but to not understand, after countless sexual encounters with this man, that he lusts after her in such an intense and undenying way is very frustrating as a fellow reader of the book who just so happens to be a woman.
- Christian gets too possessive and dominant over her, to the point that she becomes slightly frightened of telling him what she feels and wants.
I mean, don’t get me wrong, I personally find it quite enticing when a man is not afraid to tell the world that I’m his and that he wants me so intensely that the world just melts away when he pushes me against a wall.
But, I don’t agree or enjoy when a man gets so possessive to the point that he thinks that he is entitled to tell me what I can or can’t wear, what I can or can’t eat and who I can or can’t be friends with (specially if it is another man). This just crosses all types of boundaries for me. That being said, there were a few times in the book that I found Christian to be too imposing towards Ana and that I hoped she would have set her foot down harder when he did that.
Now onto the more positive notes:
- I don’t agree or like when people say it’s an abusive film prone to empowering the continuation of domestic violence by masking it within a fake romance story.
First of all, it is impossible for the film to be about domestic violence since the characters aren’t married or even in a full blown relationship through the majority of the book. So that point dies there.
Second, I don’t agree that the story condones physical or emotional abuse towards women, in this case in the personification of Anastasia. Yes, there are a few times that Christian does things that she doesn’t like or agree physically speaking, but as soon as she tells him this, he never does it to her again without her strict consent. Throughout the book, all of the sexual acts that they engage in are all consensual. Yes, she tries some things out that she finds not enjoyable and that is depicted in the book, for example: whipping with leather whips or spanking with a belt. Even for me reading them, I didn’t particularly enjoy them and yes, Ana didn’t like it either which lead to an emotional moment but as they talked about it together, she never gets whipped again. In life, you need to always try something first so you can decide if you enjoy it or not. The same applies to sexual ventures.
- When it’s said that it is not a romance.
I am partial on this one because through the majority of the book, they have sex, plain and simple. Not a lot of emotion involved apart from the intense longing and lust they have for one and other. But as the story progresses and as Christian starts to give in to Ana more and more, because of all the concessions he does for her, the story starts to slightly turn as it’s revealed that Ana is starting to develop feelings for him on a deeper level and his actions also enhance how he, himself is starting to feel same.
Overall, the book was unexpected to me in the sense that I would not enjoy it one bit because of what I’ve heard it does in describing women but I will say that I was quite surprised when I disagreed with some of the things I’ve heard about it. Their “arrangement” is uncommon and is ‘out of the norm’, but only because it showcases some links to the BDSM community even though it doesn’t delve too much into it.
This being said, it is a very repetitive book in the sense that both Anastasia and Christian’s characters seem to be repeating themselves a lot and I find there is a bit of a lack of character development for both parties and I would’ve liked to see them more in depth.
But I firmly believe this trilogy has received a lot more hate than it deserved and it frustrates me a bit that, even in 2015, sex is still a taboo in the modern world.